Cultivating Healthy Intimacy
Our choice of partner is often not a coincidence. Their unique array of a partner’s traits often fit like a puzzle piece with our own characteristics– sometimes in good ways and sometimes in volatile ways.
When a dyad is healthy, these differences are complementary and create a unifying tension that cultivates intimacy.
When there is unresolved anger and resentment, these differences continually polarize. Because our partners tend to activate our core ways of relating to close others, we tend to project our trauma, unresolved wounds, and fears onto them which corrupts intimacy in a partnership.
Much of the work that happens in couple’s therapy involves re-owning these projections and clearing space to perceive our partner without the haze of illusion that projections create. In this way, real intimacy can grow. Read about getting started.